1. I am grateful to have people to text and rely on when I feel discouraged about my health, and even more importantly, I am grateful to have a God who carries, accepts, builds, loves, and encourages me through each moment of each day.
2. I am grateful for the first day of choir of the semester, welcoming the new babies in, and hearing what we sound like as a group for the first time.
3. I am grateful for having the privilege of piano lessons after a summer without them.
4. I am grateful for people’s trust in me and the training that I have that helps me respond to crises in time and effectively.
5. I am grateful for getting to smile and laugh and spend time with friends.
Featured in Malcolm Gladwell’s book Blink, John Gottman can listen to a couple for 5 minutes and determine, with 91% accuracy, whether they’ll divorce.
- Criticism – Complaints are fine. Criticism is more global — it attacks the person, not their behavior. They didn’t take out the garbage because they forgot, but because they’re a bad person.
- Contempt – “…name-calling, eye-rolling, sneering, mockery, and hostile humor. In whatever form, contempt – the worst of the four horsemen – is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust. It’s virtually impossible to resolve a problem when your partner is getting the message that you’re disgusted with him or her.”
- Defensiveness – “…defensiveness is really a way of blaming your partner. You’re saying, in effect, ‘The problem isn’t me, it’s you.’ Defensiveness just escalates the conflict, which is why it’s so deadly.”
- Stonewalling – Tuning out. Disengaging. This doesn’t just remove the person from the conflict, it ends up removing them, emotionally, from the relationship.
your life is worth living even if you’re “not doing anything”
your life is worth living even if you are “letting life pass you by”
your life is worth living even if you stay in bed all day every day watching netflix
you don’t have to be big, beloved, important, beautiful, wealthy or famous
there is dignity in just being
it is ok to be
you merely have to be
Protect autistic kids at all costs.
Make them feel loved and important in a world that says they’re wrong for existing. Tell them it’s okay to stim, or info-dump, or mimic, or be non-verbal. Defend them from shitty ableists who demand they supress their traits and don’t treat them like real people.
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